Saturday, February 20, 2010
Any time we feel the boiling waters of stress we need to take this in and of itself as a cue to step outside the moment. So many times the stress builds and the steam blows in the form of yelling. In the end only hurt comes out of this reaction. Physical cues tell us when we are overloaded and we can choose our reactions..feel the cue, and rethink the reaction. Take a breath, say to yourself I'm angry, or I'm stressed. By then you have added time from the incident to your reaction and it can hopefully be less than a scream and more of a redirecting of your child or if you need to, give yourself some space. Screaming hurts..words like I'm angry right now or what you are doing is making me angry are appropriate in controlled tones. Say them instead of screaming...everyone will be better off in the long run.